For Better, For Worse. (The Forever Love Walk)

I’ve always wondered how women manage to remain in an abusive relationship when it is as clear as day that they are suffering emotional + physical abuse.  It just didn’t make sense to me. At a program I was invited to minister recently, the host, a beautiful woman of God shared a part of her life’s troubles and although being born again and married, she vowed never to serve God again and went prodigal for 9 years when she got hit by a storm. According to her, one day a question and answer session ensued between herself and her Lord whom she didn’t want a relationship with anymore.

GOD: Has your husband hurt you before? Got you upset?

HER: Countless times

GOD: Enough for you to consider divorce?

HER: Yes

GOD: So, why are you still with him?

HER: Because, I promised him for better for worse.

Then, the Lord said – “You are so committed to man but you are not committed to me”.

And then, it stuck!

Men hurt us, yet we stay committed to them but when a little tempest comes our way in our love walk with God, we start to waver in our commitment to God. Many times, we walk out of the relationship (between God and us), not by verbally denouncing Christianity but a decline in our prayer time, a weary heart towards a once upon a time active kingdom partnership, hosting thoughts that question God’s goodness and love instead of pulling it down as it exalts itself above the knowledge of Christ and subjecting it in obedience to Christ.

You know where and how your commitment has wavered in times of crisis. Do you not know that you took a ‘for better or worse’ vow when you said yes to Jesus, too?

This made me realize that many women who go through abusive things in their relationships, stay in it because – whether consciously or unconsciously – are committed to the man and the relationship.

My last relationship wasn’t a physically abusive one, I can’t exactly say if it is was an emotionally abusive one but it messed around with my mental state more than I knew. It wrecked my self esteem. It wrecked my emotions and made me build tall and strong walls that God is dutifully, intentionally, consistently yet slowly helping me to break (maybe one day, I’ll speak about this aspect of my life when it’s all over). Yet, I stayed because I was committed to the man I was dating.

Today, I’d like you to reflect on your commitment to Jesus. Is it still on a 100%? I’d implore you to renew your vows with the Holy Spirit. Stay committed to the one who died for you.

For the eyes of the Lord move to and fro throughout the earth that He may strongly support those whose heart is completely His.

– II Chronicles 16:9

Let your heart therefore be wholly devoted to the Lord our God, to walk in His statutes and to keep His commandments, as at this day.”

– 1 Kings 8:61

Love and Light,

The King’s Daughter,

Molara ❤️